For those of you over 21 living at home?

Well it is summer time and I am living at home with my family but I want to drink. Problem is I am not sure if my parents know that I drink, and I think I would feel weird in general even if they did; I'm not sure if I could drink at my house with them around. Also, my 16 year old brother (who knows I drink) and my 11 year old sister (who doesn't) are always home too.



Anyone have the same problem? Legally able to drink at their apartment, but can't in their own home due to feeling strange? Other than go to bars or something, what would you guys do?For those of you over 21 living at home?
You are 21 and you are legally allowed to drink, you are not restricted to the "if they smell it rules". Now act like an adult and talk to your parents as fellow adults and tell them you enjoy an occassional drink and you would like to drink at home. They will let you know if they have a problem with alcohol in their home, but point is you will have established something new with them.....you are all adults now and can communicate on that level.



Btw I moved back in with my parents at 21 for a short time and we often shared the cost of beer or liquor, I really enjoyed those few months that I was back home, it really gave me a chance to get to know my parents as people and not just parents.



Side note I hope you were refering to light/occasional drinking and not drinking for the purpose of being drunk.
Perhaps it would be awkward the first time to bring alcohol into the house when they have never seen you drink before, so why not move it to a neutral playing field. invite them to dinner, your treat. after dinner when the waitress asks about dessert or anything, order yourself a small cordial or digestif and look for their reaction.For those of you over 21 living at home?
to show responsibility, get a six and make it last at LEAST 2 nights........share one with dad!!!!!!!!!



You are 21, be responsible about it and enjoy a beer or two at home.......best to drink at home because now you are saying that HEY, I WANT A FEW BEERS AND DON'T WANT TO DRIVE DRUNK! ....



My father said to me when I was 17 and got my license that if I want to drink, do it at home....for just that reason of driving: 1 beer can make all the world of difference if you were to get into an accident.
Depends what you mean by drink. If you want to relax, and maybe grab some beers with a meal, or while watching a game, having a BBQ, etc, that should be fine. But if you're talking about getting drunk as all hell or anything crazy like that, then obviously home with kids around isn't the place for it. If you're just going to be hanging out, then ask your parents. If you go to bars, I'm sure they assume you drink. Ask if they would mind if you brought some beers home, and if they do, you could always get a mini fridge in your room, and keep them there, so they don't worry about the younger siblings taking them or something if that's an issue. I never had this problem, but I'm sure if you just talk to them, they will let you know where they stand.For those of you over 21 living at home?
simply..move out..or hell, go to the bar with your folks..



you can even talk to your folks about it and see what they think



you shouldn't subject your siblings to that type of environment....drinking and getting drunk..personallly
Get one of those apartment size fridges for your room, and keep your beer in there
I just moved in with my grandfather and when I want a drink to relax or have a few friends over for some drinks, I pop out the bottles....I usually keep my liquor in my room and I keep the beer in the fridge...I'm of legal age to drink so I will...

I lived at home with my parents even before I was 21 and drank liquor there....

The way I see it is or at least my parents say...its better knowing that I was drinking at home and not out at a bar with risks of something happening to me or behind the wheel driving....

I do have the respect for my grandfather however, not to get totally plastered and puke my brains out...
Ok, now for a view from a parent with a 21 year old living at home who has a 16 and 19 year old siblings. First, do your parents drink? If they don't, then you should respect their choice and not drink at home. My daughter is allowed to drink at home. She's been allowed to drink since she was 18. I wanted to make sure she learned how to drink responsibly. The 19 year old is allowed a drink once in a while. I know the 16 year old has "tasted" her sister's drink on occasion. It's not a big deal. If they know they can do it openly in front of me, then there's no reason to sneak around.

The legal drinking age was 18 when I was a kid. Since I drink, I would be a hypocrite if I didn't allow her to drink. My only rule is : if she has friends over and they drink too much, they have to spend the night.



Talk to your parents. You might be surprised.
I'm 26, and live with my mom. At first u might feels strange when u drink or even smoking in front of ur parents. But I did it, I felt weird at first. It's normal coz it's the first time to do something "Legal Above 21" in front of ur parents. Both sides (you n ur parents) should understand that u're over 21. U are able to drink, go to a nightclub, or do whatever responsible-decision that u made.

I don't like to go to the bars too, I like to sit down, relax n enjoy my drinks with friends or family. Not in a crowded, loud music and smokey environment.

At first u could try to drink cocktails with ur parents when there's an event (BBQ or b'day party), or maybe light beer or white wine. U could say, oh, this is good, I like it. I think ur parents should understand. Then u could slowly continue to drink (responsibly) whatever n whenever u want.

Despite ur brother or sister, they would be in ur stage when they get older, so u should give them an understandable reason.

My mother doesn't mind if I drink (responsibly), now she gets used to it, but she hate it when I smoke (of course!! ;p )
There is a difference between being 21+ and still living at home, and being 21+, living at home, and there being younger siblings in the house.



I am a pretty permissive parent of an only child who is age 21. I do not mind my daughter drinking alcohol, provided she follows the house rules that have applied all along, which would be:



1. Do it responsibly. Know your limits. A buzz is fine, totally drunk isn't.

2. Don't make me worry about you.

3. Don't make a mess.

4. Don't break anything.



But as she is an only child, there are less rules than there would be if she wasn't. If she had younger siblings, there would be a few rules that would over-rule the drinking ones, no matter what age she is, as long as she is living in the same house with them:



1. Set a good example.

2. Don't do anything you wouldn't want them doing.



You are older than your brother %26amp; sister, and as such, they look up to you and will follow your example. They will not take your age in account when doing so. Unless you want your brother %26amp; sister thinking it is ok for them to do as you do...right now...then don't do it around them.



There is also something else to consider:



There is no such thing as legally old enough to do something in your own home, if that home is your parents home.



The key words are 'your own home', which in this case it isn't...it's their home. Which means no matter how old you are, even when you are 50, their rules over-rule legal age law.



This is the case with anybody's home. You wouldn't think that just because you are over 18 that you could light up and smoke in your nonsmoking friend's house, knowing she objected to it, would you? Of course not...it's her house, her rules.



If you don't like this, there is always a way around it. Since you are an adult now, and legally old enough to do adult things like drinking, you are also old enough to take full responsibility for yourself. Part of that is taking care of yourself and getting your own place.



If you are not grown up enough to take this step, then you will have to live by someone else's rules till you can.



In the end, it would be best to talk to your parents about the issue and hear what their feelings and considerations are.