Is it right for me to say ok to my husband to go to the titty bars. while i get stuck at home with kids.?

Ok here is the thing my husband doesn't go out that often like he used to but when he does his choice to go out is straight to ricks or any bar like that here. i have had friends tell me that im too gullible and that i shouldn't allow him to go out to these places ... well in my mind yeah he is a grown man he can do what he wants but then i think well he is married to me for 9 years with 2 kids and instead of staying home and spending time with us he goes out to these places i don't mind him going out but can he do something besides that. when he goes out to places like this i feel depressed severely and i don't even want to be near him when he comes home cuz one its like 2 or 3 in the morning and two in my eyes that nasty its like going to screw and ex and then come home and screw your man. so tell me am i doing the right thing in letting him go please helpIs it right for me to say ok to my husband to go to the titty bars. while i get stuck at home with kids.?
get rid of him! that is unacceptable!

as long as you have expressed your feelings about what he's doing and he is ignoring you and doesn't care if he hurts you, he deserves to be kicked to the curb.
Completely reasonable!Is it right for me to say ok to my husband to go to the titty bars. while i get stuck at home with kids.?
I've been with my fiance for 7 years and in no way shape or form is he allowed to go to those places. Sure he goes out once in awhile to the bar with friends or to a sporting event. I put my foot down and said if you want to through money at a girl it better be me! lol
Yes. Plain and simple. The day some chick tells me what to do is the day shes out the door.Is it right for me to say ok to my husband to go to the titty bars. while i get stuck at home with kids.?
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It doesn't matter what you say ,he's already going to those places!

Those places are open at 12 noon!
Here's the thing... you can "allow" him to go and know where he is or you can tell him he can't go and have him lie to you.



Make sure you get out with your friends every once and awhile. And remember, he's not screwing anybody and he is coming home to you. Try not to let it get you down.
Talk to him, tell him how this bothers you and how it makes you feel. If he needs time to unwind then fine , but let him know there are other things that he can do. He could try something different maybe with you and the kids. Not ALL men are the same, there are some that would still choose a night with there family over the bar.
Your missing a opportunity to have fun with your husband. Hire a babysitter, or call on grandma to watch the kids. Then put on your sexiest outfit and go to the strip club with your husband. Every once in a while walk up to the stage with a dollar and let the strippers dance for you. The strippers love it, it gets the crowd into it, and it will make you husband proud and horny. Good luck and have fun.
You have been allowing him to do it for 9 years. It's kinda late now to say anything. Don't you think. You are just going to have to put your foot down and say enough is enough. Stop going to the titty bars or pack your things and get the "F" out.
Its ok so long as you get to go out sometimes too, and if he doesn't go too often (like once or twice a month at most). Really its nothing like going to screw an ex, its more like watching some porn just closer and live.
Explain to him how it makes you feel, maybe he does not realize that it bothers you because you've never told him. I wouldn't like my husband going to those types of bars and he knows it. To me it is all a matter of respect if something bothers your spouse you try not to do it and respect their feelings especially if it is something that is not of great importance to him. Good Luck.
After 15 yrs of being married to the same Women and two kids, we have a pretty good understanding about going out. She told me the reason she lets me go is because she Trust me. The money thing is one issue, but knowing that he is coming home to you is what should matter. My wife prefers to go with me, but thats her. I usually swap nites with her. She goes out during the week and I'll go out on the weekend. If she goes out on the weekend, then I'll take the kids to see a movie or something. A lot will depend on security in your marriage. My wife said likes it, because it has opened up new areas of our relationship. You really should talk to him about though. He is the one you married.
No your husband should of gone there before ya got marry that is no place for a marry man talk to him and let him know how u feel.
You shouldn't tell him it is fine if it bothers you.



If what is bothering you is not having reciprocal time for yourself then honesty is the best policy
If he wants to go to a strip club say once a week or once every few weeks then that is ok. Just make it clear to him that you want him to go to a NICE strip club. The ones that charge more money usually have stricter rules. There are some real nasty strip clubs out there, so I have been told by my ex BF. You don't want him going to the nasty ones because they will perform sexual acts for money at the trashy clubs.



You should go out with friends once a week alone too. Once a week he needs to stay home with the kids for you to go out and vice versa. Seriously ask which clubs he goes to and do some research on what those clubs are like. And really stress that he is only allowed to go to the classier pricer clubs.