Is it OK for someone to stay out at bars until 2 or 3 am while their spouse is at home?

My girlfriend and I just moved in together. We will soon be married. She says she will still be going out with her friends to bars and staying out until 2 or3 am. Am I wrong to think someone married should be at home with their spouse at 2 am?Is it OK for someone to stay out at bars until 2 or 3 am while their spouse is at home?
No, don't think it's ok unless you are going together. She needs to grow up and if she can't be in an adult relationship, you need to recognize that and think about it.
Wow this is definitely different...no it's not wrong for you to think that your spouse should be home with you at 2 am. She's still immature if she thinks that's ok especially if you have a problem with it.Is it OK for someone to stay out at bars until 2 or 3 am while their spouse is at home?
You might want to think about marrying this wacky woman. An occasional night out with girlfriends is ok, but for her to tell you that she will continue this behavior before you signed the dotted line on the marriage certificate.....OMG! Run for the hills man!
Going out to bars and staying out until 2 or 3 is for "single" people. When a man or woman marries, it is time to change that lifestyle. There are other places she can go with her friends, such as out to lunch or a movie. But unless you both go to the bar as a couple, I don't believe it is appropriate. If she wants to be a party-girl that bad, then she shouldn't marry because you are going to end up being very upset by her actions. Not to mention the temptations one faces when hanging out at bars. This is a red flag moment.Is it OK for someone to stay out at bars until 2 or 3 am while their spouse is at home?
Well it depends on how often she does it. My husband likes to go out with the guys once in awhile too and sometimes he doesn't get home until quite late. It would only bother me if we had plans or something the next day and then had to cancel them because of is partying. Why don't you go out with her or go out with your own friends? Just because she is out doesn't mean you can't go out and have fun yourself.
no no and no
It doesn't sound like it's OK with you.



Relationships are all about compromise. I'm a stay at home kind of person, my husband is a go out all the time person. So we compromise. Sometimes we stay home at night, sometimes we go out at night and sometimes i stay home while he goes out at night. The key to making this work is trust. If you don't have trust and can't agree to compromise...then it's not OK. You need to find a happy medium that works for you both, and it doesn't sound like you've found that just yet. You need to talk it out.
hell no it's not ok. you shouldn't even have to ask this question on here, you know that's not ok. i'll be damned if i marry a woman that told me that she'll continue going out to bars till 3am. haven't you been to a bar before? i've made out with plenty of drunk married women at bars. you want your wife coming home to you after she's been kissing some other dude??
I agree with you.

Sounds like maybe she's not ready to "settle down".



Going to the bars (even with girlfriends as a night out) is like going to a "meat (meet) market".



If she wants to have a "girls" night out then maybe she should be going shopping , to see a movie, or out to dinner.



When you are ready to commit yourself in a relationship then giving up going to bars is usually the 1st thing you are willing to give up.



Maybe you should ask her if she's really ready to be in this relationship.

How would she like it if you were out going to the bars until 2 or 3 in the morning?
Once in a while it is okay to stay out that late, but the way you are describing it is not real cool.
Just because a person is married doesn't me they are attached at the hip to their spouse. In my opinion things like this are what causes a large part of the divorces in the U.S. Most people think that when they get married they have to do everything together. Forget that!!!!! That is what makes married couples get tiered of each other. Just because your married doesn't mean you shouldn't have your own life.
Nope. You need to resolve this issue BEFORE you get married. It is NOT appropriate for a married woman, (or man for that matter) to stay out late at any place, except the home.



Thats why you get married, so you dont have to do all that junk any more.



Its ok to meet your old friends now and then and maybe once in a while (like once or twice a month stay out late),. but if she does this after you are married, then she doesnt care about the marriage as much as she cares for her friends. If this is the case, she should not get married yet.



Marriage is a committment and when you marry you have to give up some things you like. You have to compromise, you have to adjust, and you must adapt, or the marriage is doomed.



You two need counseling, and i suggest talking to your pastor or clergyman before you get married to resolve this (and any other issues) prior to tying the knot.



Good Luck to you both.
That seems ridiculous but it's up to the people involved. If you are not happy with that behavior, you need to let her know now. If that is what she likes to do in her spare time, I doubt she is mature enough to be married.
Not when married, but then you aren't - you're just shacking up.

However, she is showing you just what her behaviour will be like in the future -- always pay attention to the red flags...
If you have kids, then it's unacceptable. No kids, it's fine as long as it's not every night and as long as she's not cheating. You should go sometimes.