Husband goes out to bars while I am home pregnant..?

Okay so I really dont know if I am being hormonal and jealous or what and need others opinions. My husband is in the military and is usually gone 1-2 weeks out of every month to some nice place. His job in the military takes him to spain, greece, florida, and this week, san diego. Everytime he leaves (which is often) he takes the time to be a single navy guy, going out to bars, drinking, spending money we need to be saving for our upcoming child and basically acts like I dont exist. I will text him and he wont respond for awhile, then says im crazy and need to learn to not be so jealous. I dont think he would cheat on me, and I dont feel like I am being jealous. I just want to feel like we are a family... like im not the only one sitting at home taking care of the house (our son and 2 dogs) while I am pregnant and sick while he is out doing whatever he wants. I tell him it upsets me and he tells me im not going to control him and it is perfectly normal to go out to bars and I have no reason to be upset. Then he says "do you wnat me to sit in my hotel the whole time?" NO! but there a plenty of things to do that dont invovle going out to bars and getting drunk with single guys! We have had three miscarriages so this preganancy is really hard on me emotionally. When I try to talk to him about it, he tells me he cant handle it when I get emotional and I need to stop worrying about it, its not in my control. I dont know how to feel or what to think. Its so hard being alone all the time, especially when your pregnant, and its like it doesnt affect him at all. Advice?Husband goes out to bars while I am home pregnant..?
Hmm I'm not really sure oh what to do about the situaution. But you two don't seem to be spending enough "quality time" together. Maybe when he's home, make it a habit of going out together once I week. He needs to understand that you are his wife, and that he will be having another child soon. I think trying to have a good conversation about this topic will make him realize this.
What did you expect? you got pregnant by someone in the military. Most Military men are never around in the beginning. he is not going to sit at home because you have to. You might as well get use to it or find someone else to be with.Husband goes out to bars while I am home pregnant..?
write him a long letter saying that you are thinking of divorce since you and him don't see things the same way. He has to learn that as a husband and father he can not still be a single guy doing what he wants. The fact that he simply says that you can not control him tells me that even were he home all the time, the problems would still be there. You need someone that you can depend upon and he doesn't sound like he will ever be that guy.
I hate to tell you this but he's not going to spend every night in his room while he's away. I know it sucks being stuck at home while he's out having fun. I do think you need to set some sort of budget. He needs to understand that he has responsibilities at home. Going to the bar and having a drink or two w/ the buddies once a week totally cool. Getting sloshed every night? Yeah not so much. When he is home let him know that you will be expecting him to watch his son while you go out and pamper yourself and shop for the new baby. Also tell him that you want some alone time w/ him and hire a sitter or find a friend who's willing to trade off. If he's unwilling to change then file for separation, child support and move the hell out. I'm pretty sure he'll change his ways. If not there are plenty of other great guys(military ones too) out there.Husband goes out to bars while I am home pregnant..?
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It's not your hormones, he's a douche. And yes, he should be sitting in his hotel room the bulk of the time when he's off work ... or at least doing something productive like shopping for the baby instead of blowing money on booze and who knows what else. Stop tolerating his behaviour. Don't allow him to treat you that way. How? If, after you inform him you will no longer stand what he's doing/how he's acting, he still continues, you pack your things and go somewhere else to stay for a while until he gets it.
He's so selfish! I don't think you are overreacting at all! You are right! It's his expected child that is coming into this world too. It's not just your child. He should step up to the plate and stop being so selfish and needs to put his priorities in order. It's okay to go out to a bar once in a while with his buddies to take a break but ALL THE TIME? No. That's not cool.
You are acting hormonal, jealous and insecure. If you know he isn't cheating on you then stop trippin. Its all part of the military life, they are gone for months at a time and sometimes with no phone access. Start being the the person he needs at home taking care of the family etc..Or your marriage will not last.